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Women Maintaining Sexual Sanity

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Making the decision to become physically intimate with a man can be about a great deal more than passion and desire. Before you make the decision to change your relationship forever, it may prove useful to go over some of the consequences that this action can lead to.

Because there are so many different aspects to this subject, to make things a bit easier we can break down those ideas which should be reviewed into three main categories: the emotional, the physical and the altered relationship. These three specific categories may not entirely contain every detail that may be affected by such an action, but certainly they include many of the more common concerns.

In this article we will discuss some very important to reasons not to neglect your emotional needs when it comes to engaging in any physically intimate activities.

To understand what the emotional reaction to such an event might be one must first have a fair understanding of one's current feelings about the relationship. Equally as important are the feelings of the other person involved. If, for example, one person feels a strong attachment to their partner, but the partner does not return these feelings, sex may lead to some disastrous consequences.

Some people manage to think of sex in such a way that they believe no emotion is attached to it. Though on the surface this idea may work well, underneath there are usually side effects of such behavior. Denying the body and mind their natural progressions toward emotional responses during physical interaction can be extremely disruptive to one's mental health. In other words, you may form attachments that you deny are present and as a result of this denial, may experience difficult and confusing responses to random events in order to cope.

Though millions of people experience difficulty with commitment and opening up with their partners, this condition is in no way irreparable. Nor does a physical encounter require being in a committed relationship. The most important thing is to respect the feelings you may have in response to such an act and that those feelings will be permitted to surface. Denying any feelings you may have either before or after will be likely to create new emotional problems in your life and in likelihood can destroy your current relationship, however casual.

For these reasons, and many more, it is important to be sure that you have at least acknowledged a few steps before you engage in any sexual activity. These may help to improve your overall experience and allow you to continue without fearing the emotional blowback of such a serious action:

* Be sure that you have a fair understanding of how you feel about your partner.

* Likewise, inquire about your partner's feelings towards you.

* Establish where your relationship currently stands, with your partner, or at least to yourself.

* Know what level of commitment you are willing to make and what that means to you.

* If you have plans for the future of your relationship, discuss these with your partner and find out where they stand on these issues.

* Know how you feel about sex and do not participate in anything unless you feel ready to.

Once you have taken your relationship to the level where such physical intimacy takes place you will never be able to return to a previous stage without being apart for a long period of time. Though initially this may not seem like an obstacle, it is important to keep in mind. The early stages of a relationship are full of longing and passion and though sex may seem like the ultimate goal of such feelings, in reality it often complicates them.

Those hot, romantic kissing sessions will no longer include the same forbidden atmosphere once the sex-line is crossed and never forget that once you have crossed it, new problems will undoubtedly surface in your relationship.

Many women worry that once they go to bed with a man he will no longer feel as interested, and rightly so. This is indeed how many men court women. This can prove to be a very tricky way of balancing physical pleasures and commitment, or love and lust. That is why knowing exactly what you hope will happen in the relationship is so important, because by doing so you can set a few ground rules.

Though some men will lie about their feelings in order to make a conquest out of their date (not much of a triumph to take advantage of a lady by lying, but there you are,) many will not specifically mislead in order to get in bed. Being direct with a man can therefore be of great help in these matters; while certainly not a guarantee of truth, sharing your feelings and inquiring about his may help you to know whether or not having sex is in your best interest.

To understand why women tend to place so much importance on waiting to have sex, while so many men act more casually about it, we must understand the origin of such behavior. Much of this behavior is purely automated and is better left to the physical section of these articles; however, the emotional response to sex is greatly tied into the natural instinct for preservation, along with the governing rules of our society.

Consider how, for so many years, women were almost completely dependent on men to provide for them. Beginning all the way back in the Stone Age when men did the hunting, to only a few centuries ago in Europe when women were not allowed to own property and the inheritances were passed from male to male.

The result of such actions, whether instinctual or conditioned were simple: women learned to value sex as the prize they could award a man who provided the necessities of life. While the records of daily goings on in caves may not be as descriptive we have only to look at literature from centuries past to understand much of the dynamic between women and men.

Most women in today's society are no longer dependent upon a man for their survival and are therefore free of being forced to use sex as, for lack of a better term, mate-bait. Because of this drastic change in the relationship between men and women a great deal of confusion is often felt on both sides. The modern woman of today may find that clashing ideas are a constant of the world around her and this may cause dating to be just as confusing. Some women may find that they prefer traditional interaction with men, while others are turning those same traditions upside-down.

Sifting through the many ideas, theories and philosophies of sex and its' effect on relationships may cause you to feel a little overwhelmed. There is certainly a wealth of information on the subject as both men and women take an obvious interest in it.

When it comes to the emotional aspects remember that above all else you need to pay attention to your feelings. Forcing yourself to have sex or to withdraw from it simply because you feel like this is expected will often make you feel badly about the entire relationship. Take the time to figure out what you want and how incorporating sexing into your relationship makes you feel; from there you can usually work out how your partner feels about it too.

The passion for sex that many women feel is natural, exciting and should never be ignored; simply remember that, as women are often such emotional beings, it is important to pay attention to the rest of your needs as well.

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