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Planning For The The Frail Period

By: Alice Endy

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But no matter how they made you feel, you should always watch elders carefully. They were you and you will be them. You carry the seeds of your old age in you at this very moment, and they hear the echoes
of their childhood each time they see you.
Kent Nerburn, "Letters to My Son"

THE FRAIL PERIOD

Over the past decade, I have worked with thousands of
families as they have gone through and grown through
the aging of their parents or elder family member.
Helping an elderly man care for his wife, helping an elderly woman care for her husband, helping a son or daughter care for one or more parents.

We each have our thoughts, beliefs and prejudices
regarding old age and old people but it is not until you live in the shoes of the elderly do you really get a sense of the frailty of advanced age.

All of our lives we plan, for me it started at about age 15. I could not wait till I turned 16, that meant freedom, drivers license, the opportunity to obtain a job and have spending money. Never did I see the full picture of paying for car insurance, gas, repairs etc. But we go on!

Then our planning is focused on graduating from high school, going to college and again getting a job and having spending money. Never do we see the full picture, the cost of our first apartment, new car payments, finding the right job, etc. But we go on!

Then again, our plans take another direction, our marriage, children and all that child raising entails, children's college, their marriage, first grandchild. Never do we see the full picture, the work involved in raising a child, maintaining a marriage, and a career. But we go on!

Then the ultimate,what I believe we think is the
final planning ,our retirement! Afterwhich something interesting then happens. Often we stop planning since we have reached the ultimate, "paid our dues", "this is my time." We rarely see the full reality our aging.

Many really do not plan for the stage of life that I refer to as the Frail Period. It is the only plan that does not have something to look forward to and it is often perceived as the end-our death!

Let's face it, planning for the time of our lives that we are unable to care for ourselves is not exactly exciting! In fact, this type of planning often is a very sad and an anxiety producing experience. Many people find it very difficult to even discuss the possibility of dying much less discuss or plan for long term disability that often comes with moving into what I refer to as the Frail Period.

I encourage you to be gentle and patient when you
broach this topic with your parent/parents. But it must be discussed in order for you and your parent to move into "the frail period" with confidence that all will be well!

I have a belief that the Frail Period is just as important and special to the elder and the family as the birth process and first few years of life.

Much joy can be obtained by developing and adjusting
your relationship with your elder family member.

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Alice Endy is a Registered Nurse with advanced certification as a Gerontological Nurse. Alice has helped thousands provide care and support to their elder family members. Alice has been a caregiver for her Mother who is in her twelfth year of Alzheimers Disease. www.AskNurseAlice.com

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