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Marriage Infidelity - The Facts

By: Pierre Basson


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Marital Infidelity - The Facts
The facts about Extra-Marital Affairs(sexual unfaithfulness to a spouse) are amazing. Surveys show that although 90% of married people disapprove of extramarital relationships, statistics from a national survey indicate that 15% of wives and 25% of husbands have experienced extramarital intercourse. These numbers increase by 20% when emotional affairs and sexual relationships without intercourse are included. Another source, The Monogamy Myth, authored by Peggy Vaughan, suggests that 60% of husbands and 40% of wives will have an affair at some time in their marriage.
Marital Adultery - The Truth
Another term for marital cheating is adultery. The New Encyclopedia Britannica reports that, "adultery seems to be as universal and, in some instances, as common as marriage." In fact, marriage researcher, Zelda West-Meads, states that although much adultery is never discovered, "all the evidence points to affairs being on the increase."
These statistics are frightening, but what is even more alarming is that they do not even come close to exposing the strong emotional impact that marital infidelity has on people's lives. Imagine the inconsolable grief and pain, not to mention the confusion, anxiety, and sleepless nights that are all wrapped up in these numbers. When all is out in the open, the faithful spouse may survive the nightmare, but his or her scars will not easily go away, and the damage done to the marriage may never be completely healed. Extra marital affairs can also take their toll in some long-term outcomes that both spouses will have to deal with for many years, such as sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.
Marital Affairs - Why it Happens
The reasons for marital infidelity are as many and as varied as the people involved. Emily M. Brown, LCSW, Director of Key Bridge Therapy and Mediation Center, has categorized the reasons for extramarital adultery as follows: conflict avoidance, intimacy avoidance, sexual addiction, split self, and exit. Many of the explanations outlined here fit into one or more of these categories.
Interestingly, marital cheating are not always a sign of a troubled marriage. Some spouses succumb to the lure of an extramarital relationship as the result of experiencing abnormal stress over a normal lifestyle change, such as becoming a parent or an empty nester. So adultery can occur in happy marriages as well as unhappy ones. In some cases, the marriage partners may appear contented to outsiders, but the husband or wife begins cheating because of their own low self-esteem, habitual conflict avoidance, or fear of intimacy. The faithful spouse has worked hard for the marriage; but no matter how hard they work, the unfaithful spouse is going to have an affair because of their own lack. Other reasons for marital infidelity are typically symptomatic of an unhealthy, and often, failing marriage. These are things like the lack of affection between the marriage partners, the sexual addiction of one or both spouses, the feelings of sexual entitlement based on gender or status, and the means of exiting from an unhappy marriage.
Marital Infidelity - How to Treat it
No matter how marital adultery is categorized, all of the reasons are like a disease that gnaws away at the roots of a healthy plant to eventually destroy it. Marital infidelity can never be the cure for that disease. Instead, extramarital cheating cause the sickness to expand like cancer, and soon the entire marriage is infected and extreme actions must be taken to save it.
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