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Dating Tips: Using Storytelling to Attract Women

By: Vin DiCarlo

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Today I want to talk to you about a subject that
I feel is very important and powerful when it
comes to meeting and holding the interest of not
only women but anyone in your life.

This subject is none other than Storytelling and
when used correctly, can make your desirability
with women sky rocket.

Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind
successful story telling and how to construct a
powerful story (which will be covered more in
depth in Part II) I want to clear up a few myths
when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.

Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but
as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply
the right story telling techniques, and can keep
the conversation moving, then your story does not
have to be true.

Even if the women does not believe the story, if
you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most
likely run with new conversation topics developed
from your stories.

I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most
powerful stories are ones that are true and come
from a place of emotion.

You can be so over the top with stories where the
unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets
involved and becomes part of a newly painted
reality that you and the girl get to share and
more importantly create together. (This becomes a
key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering
storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play
Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of
role playing will have to be saved for a later
issue.)

However I think the biggest misconception is not
whether the stories have to be true, but is more
about whether or not they have to be about the
story teller.

One of the main goals of story telling is to
communicate to the listener about you.
Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about
yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual
content of it.

Through the power of expressions, energy, and
vivid language, you can convey to your listeners
such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and
over all personality.

When applying the proper techniques of a story,
you should be able to repeat what you heard on
the news but in such a fashion that directly
makes you more interesting and displays your
personality.

Myth Two: As you get better with women you become
less dependent on story telling.

Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense
that you do not go into interactions with
prescripted stories as much as you may starting
out. However, it is through the skills that
storytelling develops that make you less
dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story
you have made up or written down and rehearsed,
you are able to share any subject in an
interesting fashion that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of
storytelling and is one of the key reasons
learning and mastering storytelling is a great
way to improve not only your skills with women,
but your overall social skills.

What is storytelling and why is it important?

Storytelling is the direct means of communication
when highlighting important parts of your life to
the listener. Not only through context, but
through delivery.

Storytelling plays a very important part in
getting to know someone and the great thing about
telling a story, is that it creates so many other
subject matters to talk about and that a story is
almost always followed by another story.

If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales"
by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story
is molded by the one told before it and by who
told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't
have to have a rhyme scheme during the
interaction like many of Chaucer's do)

There are many reasons storytelling is important
and if you are not currently utilizing
storytelling then consider these following facts:

*Storytelling is a great way to save dying
conversations

This is one of the most common problems that I
see with many guys. An interaction will be going
great, then conversation starts to die and there
is that awkward silence. This is a great time to
bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the
interaction.

Knowing you are armed with a story creates more
approach confidence when entering an interaction.

People are afraid to enter interactions because
of the fear of running out of things to say. By
developing a great story or two and keeping them
in your back pocket for when you need them
creates a great since of confidence during the
initial approach and can really help limit the
anxiety that one gets when approaching a
beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the
interaction will last at least the length of your
story.

*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

When you are telling a story the right way, all
eyes are on you, you are the center of attention,
and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding
the attention of the group through storytelling
puts you in a dominant frame of you being the
leader of the interaction and everyone else being
the listener, waiting to see where you take the
group next.

What you convey through your stories is how you
will be remembered.

Unlike most things you say during an interaction,
a good story is unforgettable. How many times
have you had someone tell you about some crazy
story that one of their friends told them?
Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an
old custom and still exists till this day. The
girl should be able to look back on the
interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the
guy who (did whatever interesting activity that
relates to you)."

*Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to
make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through
storytelling you learn to capture the entire
attention of the group. Also you directly convey
your personality and it gets you accustomed to
doing so. The skills that are developed from
strong storytelling directly carry over into your
social personality that make all conversation
with you more exciting and vivid. The
expressiveness you show in stories ties into your
future interactions and directly improves your
social personality.

*You can convey things through storytelling that
you normally could not say.

There may be some interesting details of your
life that said outside the context of a story may
come off as bragging. But in a story, these
little details are never the subject of the story
thus they remain subtle but are powerful when
displaying aspects of your identity.

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is
so effective and what you should be aiming for
when telling a story we are going to work on
creating your very own powerful stories that
cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in
Part II of this newsletter, but there is an
exercise I want you to do right now so you can
directly apply all the tips and tactics to create
an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten
moments in your life that you feel changed or
defined who you are.

If you have a funny story then that is just a
humorous time then you can feel free to include
that. But even if the story does not seem major,
just entertaining, the fact that you can remember
it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not
depressing) but we do learn through negative
experiences. We will eventually cut these down to
just a couple stories in Part II but for now I
just want you to get into the habit of taking
note of interesting experiences in your life.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an
unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment
you succeeded, something funny that happened to
you or a friend.

Now I know that there are going to be people that
say they have no interesting stories. This is
just not the truth; everyone has something
interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not
be modest; even if it's a silly story write it
down. You can't be afraid to share a story,
sometimes they are hard to think of and if you
really can't think of a past story, starting
paying more attention to your every day life. And
if you still can’t think of one then go take a
vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

So many things happen in one day that people don'
t even think would be a story. But every past
event being told is a story. There is no excuse
not to have one.

Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that
you would like people to know about you.

This is going to tie into personality conveying.
Think of the things that you would like any
friend or new acquaintance to know about you.
These are the things that directly relate to your
identity and make you who you are. Do not be
surprised if these things are directly related in
some way to the stories you wrote down in
exercise one.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you
play, your job, your goals, your skills and
achievements.

Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot
in Part II of this newsletter to create some
super powerful stories that you can always rely
on. Also I will further go into the skills of
storytelling and how to use them to make every
story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with
you guys so you will get to see my story end
product as well.

Till then keep an eye out for the next letter and
great ready to really take storytelling to the
next level

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