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Christian Dating Tricks of People Going on their First Date

By: Joan Rogers

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Christian dating should be seen as the first few steps in relation to Christian marriage. Indeed this is how most Christians do see dating. Of course, this does not mean planning the marriage from your first date however it does mean dating with the thought of Christian marriage in mind. Which is just a scary means of saying that when you date like a Christian you decide to go on that date ready to accept the idea that this person could be the one with whom you just fall in love and marry. This really is essentially what Christian dating is, it is dating with marriage in mind. If you engage in a date with someone without being open to the potential for falling in love then you are certainly on the date but for sure not really a Christian date! This leads us on to the biggest Christian dating mistake.

Christian dating mistake #1 Not dating with romance in mind

The main dating mistake created by many Christians is that they're not having Christian dates at all. This does not mean that you will not Christian places or doing Christian activities, or even that you're not dating other Christians. This means that you're making the error of thinking that simply being a Christian and possessing a date equals Christian dating. This isn't so. The date itself should be within the framework of Christian ethical standards - how Christians treat others. Your date really should not be along since they are nice to think about, or nice to be seen with. Nor should your date be simply company on an otherwise lonely night.

Many Christians make the error of asking someone out on a romantic date when all they want is someone going out with being a friend. This leads to obvious complications when you've got one person viewing the opposite like a potential friend, whilst being viewed by them like a potential husband or wife. Christians make this mistake on a regular basis because of the not enough sexual pressure in Christian dating. Knowing that sex is out of the question in accordance with strict personal rules on kissing as well as other acts of intimacy, it is easy to end up in 'friend mode' rather than viewing your date as a potential spouse. Now of course a couple are friends, I am by no means suggesting otherwise, but theirs is a special sort of friendship built on the foundation of romantic love.

Dating with marriage in mind means considering your date, from the initial date, as someone with whom you could potentially create a romantic, loving friendship with that leads to marriage. It doesn't mean working out the names of the future children five minutes in the first date! Christian dates should be romantic and marriage-minded in the outset.

What's the difference between Christian dating and non-Christian dating? To many people the solution lies in that which you do on that date. It's an easy one to answer. Christians won't have sex on the date and may even choose not to kiss. Now think about the main difference between Christian dating and a couple people heading out as friends, for a meal in order to catch a show? The answer lies in the way the couple view each other. The friends, see one another as friends and treat one another accordingly. The dating couple ought to be viewing each other as dates, not simply as friends. Imagine two friends, a male and a women, heading out for any meal to get caught up on old times but throughout the meal the man starts seeing his friend like a date. Unless she starts seeing him like a date the evening will find themselves in upset. Now imagine, a Christian couple on the date but while she sees her date as a date, he sees her like a friend - this evening too will end in upset.

To avoid the biggest dating mistake created by Christians, simply ensure you are going on a Christian date. Not just a night out with a friend but a date. If you think about asking someone out on the date, ask yourself first if you could see yourself in a romantic relationship with this person. Avoid being one of those Christians who find someone they like being a friend and get them out for a date (knowing there won't be any sexual pressure) with the idea that at 'some' time in the future things 'may' get romantic. Christians know that romance doesn't suggest sex but dating should mean romance - from the comfort of the very first date.

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