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Asian Dating - Does Age Matter

By: Steve Eyes

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In the Asian online dating world it is not rare for a older gentlemen to marry a younger lady. If you ask why this is the situation, you’ll get a assorted amount of comments. The disapproving reasons generally have to do with an Asian lady wanting an older gentlemen for financial reasons. I have had some say to me that this not a negative reason, but what stems from this dispute are a variety of distasteful comments. For example, “gold diggers” “mail order bride,” etc.

In other articles I have written I approved with the assessment that Filipina ladies want to enhance their living status by stating that most ladies want to further their status financially, no matter the ethnicity. So this line of reasoning smells of hyprocacy.
Let’s get back to some of the more optimistic reasons. Most of the following comments are from me asking other Filipina ladies this question: “Why do you like older men?” or I may of asked: “Does age matter?”

Several ladies told me a younger guy is not matured. They are looking for somebody who is earnest and they seem to think an older man is more serious about marriage. They did affirm that a younger guy may not have the monetary means to come to their country to visit them and uphold a courtship. When hard-pressed why they thought this, most merely stated “who would have a better job, a 20 year old guy or a 40 year old guy.” I didn’t get into the potential of a younger man having a good job with the ladies, but for the record, this seems to be the belief system of Asian women.

This tells me that these ladies evaluate the criteria. They take getting in a long distance relationship genuinely and don’t want to risk being involved with someone who doesn’t have the staying power needed to be involved in a long distance courtship. In some cases, these ladies had already experienced a relationship with a younger man and after six months was abandon. Getting your heart broken is no fun and most Asian ladies think a younger man is more likely to do just that. To these ladies it doesn’t make sense to get caught up with someone that may not be able to afford to fly to their country to meet them (this is one of the INS criteria for the K-1 process). These ladies understand this condition and put more importance on this criteria then a lady living in the states would.

All this talk about young versus old, led me to question the ladies motives. I simply asked, “if age is a factor in a man’s ability to see a courtship through to marriage, is this your biggest reason to marry?”. That’s when the topic of love came up. Most Asian ladies still want to be attracted to a gentlemen, but what attracts them versus what attracts an American lady seem to be different. Behavior is a big attraction. Most Asian ladies reply if a man acts like a gentlemen, in time they find him very attractive and fall in love. Asian ladies don’t put as much importance on first looks or impressions. They are more approachable to courtship until they get to know your character .

This discussion about behavior, courtship, etc. led us back to the discussion of a man’s age. Again, most ladies believe an older gentlemen have clear themselves of his wild oats. They believe older men have learned how to regard a lady like a lady. They believe a younger male isn’t as tolerant and is more likely to have a wondering eye or worse, a wondering sexual drive.

After a lot of conversations and emails, I can put this discussion about age in perspective. Age is a dynamic only because of an Asian ladies belief system. However, other criteria does weigh in. In this case, I can use my marriage to Liza (my Filipina Lady) as an example. Liza was courted by quite a few gentlemen. I was far from the richest or best looking. However, I did have a established job and could afford to be in a long distant relationship (I saved my $). Some of the gentlemen who had more money then I, actually turn Liza off. Even though she wanted to be introduced to a gentlemen who could afford to be in such a relationship, she was not going to be bought. Any gentlemen who tried to bombard her with extravagant talk about his wealth was crossed off her list. I was much more modest and well-mannered. That generated feelings which led us down the path to matrimony. There is no hesitation if I couldn’t of afford to follow through with the courtship, Liza would of had no option but to find someone else.

My example is typical. These ladies are not looking for material goods, but firmness. They are not looking for a young stud, but a man who will treat her with respect, a man who wants to get married and will stay the line through thick and thin. Asian ladies just happen to accept as true that for the most part older men fit this criteria. All I got to say to the older guys is count your lucky stars. For you younger guys you need to show the lady you are the exception to their belief system. Don’t try to procure them. Show them you care, you are serious about courting them, and that you have the determination and reliability to make dreams come true.

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